All Christians

Today’s article comes from a different location than normal at a different pace. We tell you guys all the time to rest, take time to recovery, relax with the ones you love, and find renewal in God’s plan for your life. This week’s article is going to start a little more personable as I am doing the same for myself right now.

We are at the end of our time at the beach, a thousand miles from home, not worried about the diet I’ve been on because calories don’t count on vacation, going to bed earlier than normal, and quieting the time. I have stopped client work for the week, supervision and managing my counseling program has taken a significant backseat, and very little website work for this site has been done for a bit. Coffee is extra appreciated in the morning, steaks are enjoyed in the evening, and building castles in the sand or splashing in the ocean waves have been fun.

Of course, not everything can be set aside completely. Parenting is still needed in this time, I’m not an extrovert by default but I do try to socialize as best as possible, and I still need to get my workouts in as best as possible. Even now, I’m writing an article for this website.

So where is the balance?

Finding Balance

In today’s fast-paced world, it can be challenging to find moments of peace and rest. The demands of work, family, and daily responsibilities can leave us feeling drained, both mentally and spiritually. As Christians, we are called to live lives of balance and rest, drawing from the eternal well of God’s love and wisdom. In this article, we will explore ways to find rest and refresh our mental health and soul, guided by the timeless truths of Scripture.

I genuinely believe in the prospect of working hard and resting even harder. I do not work to rest by any means, my mission is still to fulfill the calling God has given me through my mental health work and ministry. But it is not possible to work well without rest and renewal.

The Importance of Rest

Rest is not just a physical necessity; it is a spiritual practice that God himself instituted. In Genesis 2:2-3, we read, “By the seventh day God had finished the work he had been doing; so on the seventh day he rested from all his work. Then God blessed the seventh day and made it holy, because on it he rested from all the work of creating that he had done.”

God’s rest after creation sets a precedent for us. It highlights the importance of taking time to cease from our labors and reflect on the goodness of what has been accomplished. This principle of rest, embodied in the Sabbath, is a gift meant to restore our souls and refresh our spirits.

Some work-life balance entrepreneurs would even say this is something you should consider not just weekly, but daily and even hourly. In a single hour, I’ll see a client, but when I’m done, I hope to have my clinical note completed, walk the client out, get a fresh glass of water, and do a quick lap around the agency to clear my head. Then it’s on to the next one.

Within the day, I have a drive to work that is 30 minutes long and typically am not listening to audiobooks about counseling, allowing for a buffer between home and work and vice versa. Within the week, hopefully there is a time of Sabbath. Jesus underscores the significance of Sabbath rest in Mark 2:27, saying, “The Sabbath was made for man, not man for the Sabbath.” I certainly could do better myself, but hope that I am taking that time to rest, reconnect with God, and be prepared to head back out.

Within the vacation of a year, it does not always include a beach. In fact, I would say I’m not a beach person myself, but it is a time of unplugging for an extended amount of time. From readings of Richard Foster and Dallas Willard, I have pushed myself to take those small moments of breath prayers I do between counseling sessions and practice them as best I can within myself during a vacation. Quiet my mind, listen more, and rest. It has been my own experience that when we practice extended times of these practices where it feels daunting, it makes it easier to do in the little moments of a busy day.

Refreshing Your Mental Health

Mental health is an integral part of our overall well-being. Just as we care for our physical bodies, we must also tend to our minds. Philippians 4:6-7 offers profound wisdom for maintaining mental peace: “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”

Prayer is a powerful tool for managing anxiety and stress. When we bring our worries and fears before God, we invite His peace into our hearts. Stillness within the moments of coffee brewing or listening to waves splash while kids are running around finding seashells is renewing of our mind. Practicing gratitude shifts our focus from our problems to the blessings we have, as we practice this within ourselves and teaching it to those we love. Keeping a gratitude journal or simply taking a few moments each day to thank God for His goodness can have a transformative impact on our mental health.

Cultivating a Lifestyle of Rest

Rest and refreshment are not just occasional practices to be done for a week or two during an annual vacation, but should be woven into the fabric of our daily lives. Here are some practical tips for cultivating a lifestyle of rest:

1. Prioritize Sleep: Ensure you are getting adequate rest each night. A well-rested body is more resilient and better equipped to handle stress.
2. Set Boundaries: Learn to say no to activities and commitments that drain your energy. Protect your time and prioritize activities that rejuvenate you.
3. Practice Mindfulness: Engage in activities that promote mindfulness, such as prayer, meditation, or deep breathing exercises. These practices help center your mind and spirit.
4. Connect with Community: Surround yourself with supportive and encouraging people. Family, friends, and church family are always great. Fellowship with other believers can provide emotional and spiritual support.
5. Engage in Creative Activities: Find hobbies and activities that bring you joy and allow you to express yourself creatively. This can be a powerful way to relax and refresh your mind.

Finding rest and renewing your mental health and soul is a vital part of living a balanced and fulfilling Christian life. By embracing the gift of Sabbath, practicing gratitude, and integrating restful practices into our daily routines, we can experience the peace and restoration that God desires for us. Remember Jesus’ invitation in Matthew 11:28: “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” As we draw near to Him, we find true rest for our souls.

May you find the rest and refreshment you need, and may your soul be restored in the loving presence of our Savior.

For those that do not know, Barna has been doing a “State of …” series with their surveying of churches to include State of Your Church, State of Pastors, Volume 1, State of Discipleship, and now the newest one, State of Pastors, Volume 2. If you haven’t been keeping up with them, I do not think you need to purchase all of the old documents, but this newest report is worth buying the physical copy or downloading digitally. From a mental health perspective within the Church, we want to share some essential highlights you need to see.

Recently Joni and Friends shared a very powerful video on the topic of changing Church culture. From the standpoint of ministering to the world, I think it is easy to witness to those who want to hear, to those that look like us, and to those who the Church receives blessings of time and tithes.

• But what about those who the Church has to put lots of support into that are wheelchair bound or severely cognitively delayed?
• What about serving those who do not look like us or act like us and have made morally irreprehensible choices before they accepted Jesus and continue to suffer the earthly consequences of these decisions?
• What about those who we do not understand because of hidden disabilities like PTSD or developmental disabilities that make us uncomfortable like Autism?

I’ve had a dream for about a decade to get into some of the more nuanced areas of mental health and dove into the intersection of faith and mental health. But at the same time as starting that, I’ve also wanted to do more in mental health research and statistics. So today marks the start of our adventures into that research with regard to faith and mental health within an initial “Get To Know You” survey that you can take here. To sweeten the pot a little, we offer a limited-time promo code to get a free eBook upon completion.

(Note that this survey will remain open, but the promo code will expire on June 22, so go complete it today.)

Ministry is hard. Burnout is real. Caring for individuals and families and shepherding the flock is an around-the-clock job. Incorporating mental health into the topic of faith can also be difficult. Serving those who struggle with mental illness is an ever-evolving process. Thrive & Cultivate wants to address all of that.

Plus, I will be one of the keynote speakers, speaking on “How Pastors Can Respond To Depression.” Come check out my presentation and the rest of the presentations by signing up here.

Mental health awareness has gained significant traction in various communities worldwide in recent years. We have often covered the topic from different cultures, different age groups, and different developmental abilities. 

However, within Asian cultures, discussions surrounding mental health often remain shrouded in silence and stigma. Asian Americans are the least likely racial group to take action on their mental health and are more likely to reach out to friends and family. As Christian counselors, it is crucial to address the unique challenges faced by Asian individuals in navigating mental health issues, especially within the context of the Church, where stigma can be particularly pronounced.

Christian counselors, pastors, and Christians are called to walk alongside struggling people by offering support, understanding, and hope. In our journey, we encounter individuals facing mental health and substance use disorders, often battling stigma and misunderstanding. However, one truth of recovery we must understand is that it is not easy. Quitting misusing substances, stopping suicidal ideation, and understanding what is reality and what is psychosis are only the beginning. That’s when the hard part begins.

In the profound journey of guiding souls towards spiritual growth and emotional healing, we understand the importance of a nurturing and supportive community. As fellow travelers on this sacred path, we are thrilled to extend an invitation to join our newsletter, specially crafted for Christian counselors and pastors like you.

As Christian counselors and pastors, we are deeply committed to the well-being of every individual, especially the most vulnerable among us—our children. April marks National Child Abuse Awareness Month, a time when we are called to action to protect our children from harm and bring light to what is hidden. Below we want to identify some statistics for church leaders as well as some actionable steps for you.

Note that we have other articles on preventing sexual abuse within the church, what the church’s response needs to be with regards to domestic violence, and what pastors should do when they witness any kind of abuse.

“It’s Friday. But Sunday is Coming!”

I remember this being a phrase within the Christian world several years ago and a sermon going viral from S.M. Lockridge of the despair of Friday when Christ was crucified, but the hope is of Sunday to come. I’ll be honest, as a counselor for the broken, advocate for the voiceless, and therapist to those whose parenting and marriages feel unfixable, this story is a powerful reminder of the need for hope.