It’s Okay To Disappoint Your Kids [Video]

Parenting is hard. It might be the hardest thing you ever have to do. Part of it is keeping that little person alive and raised up to be a good person. But part of it is also that we see our sinful nature reflected in them, our reaction to their not listening, and the need for boundaries which we may never have fully established.

The video below is from Focus on the Family. For those of you who struggle with discipline, maybe because of your own mental health shortcomings or mental illness within the child, I want to encourage you to take some time to watch this four-minute video and I’d love to hear in the comments, how do you create boundaries as a parent or how have you seen boundaries done well with children?

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Church Mental Health Awareness Cards

If you are wanting to get quickly to requesting the cards, you can fill out our form here.

Mental health stigma is culturally a huge problem. Stigma is when someone views you in a negative way because you have a distinguishing characteristic or personal trait that’s thought to be, or actually is, a disadvantage.

It limits people’s motivation to engage in the treatment, getting the help they need, but also in the activities they are currently involved in, like church. Further, it can actually cause some mental health symptoms to create further harm and isolation.

The way you fight against mental health stigma is educating yourself and others as well as create a culture open to dialogue and not shaming or guilting others who you feel are different.

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New Free Mental Health Devotional eBook

We’ve decided to do a follow up to our previous mental health devotional we released two months ago. This will be perfect for Christian pastors, leaders, and those looking to build their faith. Even more so, for those who struggle with mental health and want to have God be part of the restoration process.

Just as before, there is a BIG catch here.

We aren’t just going to give it to anyone. We will only be releasing it for free to people who sign up for our newsletter before this Friday. If you want to get access to this, you still have time to sign up here or below.

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Words Matter with Mental Health

This is not about being politically correct. This is about treating people wholely, beyond any mental illness, impairment, or delay. We need to recognize that words matter.

Words matter with mental illness. Words matter with developmental disabilities. Words matter with substance misuse.

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The Difference Between Empathy And Sympathy [Video]

Empathy is the “ability to understand and share the feelings of another.” For many people, we assume this is the same as sympathy, but it truly isn’t. In church, I see people have sympathy for the homeless, the widowed, the orphaned, the mentally ill, the physically injured, the locked up, the abused, and the addicted.

Sympathy is “we’ll pray for you” and then by the time you walk out the church doors you’ve forgotten that commitment. Empathy is being willing to drive that person home, pray for them when they leave, showing up at the homeless shelter to give them supplies, and sit to authentically listen to them weep over their fears and losses six months or a year after the event has happened.

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What To Look For In Christian Counseling

If you have not read our previous post on how a pastor can make a referral for someone to go to counseling and what pastors need to do to help, check out the article here. So you may know how to make a referral, but what should Christians and pastors look for when referring someone to counseling?

Below are the steps you need to know to ask for not only finding a good counselor but one that will also keep your spiritual needs at the forefront of the counseling. Further, we do not go into specifics of the difference between Biblical counseling and having a Christian counselor but will write about that in the future.

Note: this will be useful whether you are going to attend outpatient or inpatient treatment. If this is a crisis situation, call 911, a crisis hotline (1-800-273-8255) or go to the nearest emergency room for immediate assistance.

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Healing and Mental Illness

Jesus heals. We know He does. We see it in the Bible, and we even see it today.

But He doesn’t always heal when we ask Him to.

I’ve been chronically ill since I was eight years old, and you bet I prayed, and still pray, to be healed. People laid hands on me (um, not my favorite), people prayed over me silently, people prayed for me out loud, people prayed for me without me knowing, people I barely knew prayed for me.
I’m just saying that I was and am, prayed for.

And I haven’t been healed.

I’m still chronically ill a decade later.

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Marriage Encourages Mercy

Barna Group, a Christian-based research group started by David Kinnaman, recently conducted a study on how marriage and parenting impact an individual’s understanding of forgiveness. Per the description of the product, this report covers:

  • New data and infographics about prevailing attitudes and practices of mercy and justice in the Church
  • An overview of how people define, offer and accept forgiveness in their daily lives
  • Gaps between practicing Christians’ and pastors’ perceptions of how churches facilitate hope and healing
  • Details about how life stage, generation and political ideology factor into expressions of compassion 

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Things Christians Say about Mental Health (vs What They Should Say)

Through personal experience and hearing shared experiences of other people, I have concluded that in most cases of any mental illness, people, and more specifically Christians, don’t know what to say. This comes down to a lot of stigma surrounding overall mental health, in the Church and out, but I’ll save that for another post. I’ll just say that what you do or don’t say to someone can really change their life; the Bible isn’t kidding when it says that the power of death and life are in the tongue.

Below I have compiled a few lists of things that you should and shouldn’t say to someone who has just shared with you their struggle.

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